Hello and welcome back to my blog!!
I’ve been feeling very motivated and inspired lately and got a few things I wanted to share so I thought the best thing to do would be by a blog post.
As most of you are aware there are good & bad sides to social media. Few reasons to why I want to keep my Instagram feed & blog unique is because it can get so competitive and nasty. I dislike when people copy others and don’t be their own individual, some people think their lives need to be based on others.
Yes fair enough we all have atleast one person who we can think of as our inspiration and we admire every move or action they make and see no wrong in this person. That’s fine. It’s great to be inspired by atleast one person and look up to them as a little motivation.
Although I don’t agree on comparing yourself based on what you have or own to what others have or how you look to how they look. You have to be unique and love you in your own skin, give yourself that confidence boost by doing what genuinely makes you happy, have a hobby, have fun and then you will start glowing.
A few tips to get rid of those negative vibes is to unfollow/delete the people of your feed that are knocking your confidence or are not doing you any favours. Once you de clutter you will notice a change in your mood and when scrolling through your feed you won’t get annoyed.
Travelling has honestly opened up my eyes to many new things and looking over the past year since I have left home. I know I have become a stronger & more confident person.
I have motivated myself so much and have opened up many opportunities that I never knew would once be an option. I never doubt any thought or action, I always believe there will be a good outcome.
When travelling you meet so many different people which gives you a real eye opener and teaches you many life lessons. I always think back to school and how during education no one ever taught you how to deal with difficult situations or people that you may approach throughout life.
Some of you may agree but I have actually taught myself so many techniques by listening to podcasts and I feel like Tony Robbins is apart of my life. This man has totally opened up my eyes to many different situations that I have been hit in the face with previously but never knew how to deal with them, now I’m like wow wait I know exactly how to handle this.
Tony Robbins has taught me that anything life throws at you, happens for a reason. A negative situation arises. Okay get a pen and piece of paper and write down all the positives and negatives. I can promise you there will be atleast 1 positive outcome and you will take that to overcome the bad. When the situation passes over you will look back in days, weeks, months or years and laugh and say well that happened actually because of ……..
Back to where I mentioned that social media can be good and bad. This is also because there is always a lot more good mentioned than there is bad. Now let’s be realistic we all don’t live in a fairytale. Every now and again, we have real issues where we want to have a chat about or need a shoulder to cry on. These things never get shared it’s just always pictures of happy smiles and the sadness is left behind closed doors invisible of the public eye which portrays us to be humans that were not.
As most of you may know I’m currently living in Sydney, Australia. On my feed you all probably think wow she’s living the absolute dream…YES I AM!!! But that doesn’t mean my life doesn’t involve sad or stressful times that you can’t see.
For anyone who doesn’t already know the cost of living is very high within most cities in Australia and most people house share to cut this expense. When I first came out to Oz, I was honestly abit weary as I have never experienced this before and never knew what to expect. Obviously you don’t know anything until you take that risk and attempt it.
Our first year visa we lived with 2 Dutch guys which was fine. Guys are pretty relaxed and have that laid back attitude. Now into our second year visa we decided to live with 2 friends who we have known since we first hit Australia.
Previously living with guys I was so excited to have that little bit of home comfort & have girl time. As soon as we moved in together, I learnt to realise this was not a good idea. Everyday coming home from work I was utterly frustrated with many things.
As friends we had many conversations which involved agreeing and disagreeing about certain situations. Obviously this lead to awkwardness as being friends and having to discuss money, bills and serious things can make there become a strange vibe.
Everyone has their own problems & issues but one thing I don’t agree on is rubbing these onto someone else. Everyday coming home from work I would of heard negativity like I hate Sydney, I want to go home, there’s nothing to do here, I’m bored, I’ve no money, I want to leave.
When your surrounded by people who have a negative attitude or approach to certain things it can totally affect you as a person. I love Sydney, I absolutely love everything about it. Fair enough there’s people who may of came out here and realise that it’s not for them but they can’t rub this attitude on people who do actually enjoy being here.
Smaller things become bigger things. One thing leads to another and when there’s an awkwardness especially in your own home where your suppose to be relaxed and feel comfortable, it’s not a pleasant feeling.
I was coming home from work everyday to my bedroom. I got myself in this terrible rut where I knew if I left my room I would be faced with this huge awkwardness and I wanted to avoid that. I ended up never being home and would of went to the gym until very late to avoid being in the house.
I personally hate drama and confrontation so I felt like this was the best way to avoid the situation as I knew it wasn’t going to get any better until 1 day a bombshell came and our landlord texted me to make me aware the people would be leaving in a week. I automatically thought how can they do this, we haven’t got anyone to replace them for their side of the bills nor have we discussed the situation or how am I going to be able to afford full rent.
We then attempted to talk about this which made the situation worse as they couldn’t see no wrong. I didn’t mind if they made me aware as we were once friends and said I’m not happy I’m leaving we will attempt to get replacements for our share of the rent but no these people did not care about my feelings nor did they care me and my partner where going to be left to pick up the pieces.
I was totally upset by the situation as I thought they could have handled it in a much mature matter by not being sneaky and making decisions behind my back. However this has now taught me not to put 100% faith and trust into everyone you meet. This has now made me have higher standards for people I have to live with which isn’t fair on others. I just don’t want to be put in this situation ever again as it was totally horrible and caused extreme stress within my relationship as we both have to find time to do viewings and find new people to live with.
Speaking with a few friends who are travelling I have learnt to hear the same happen to them where they have realised it’s not a good idea to live with friends as it tears the friendship apart.
Looking at the situation now I have more positive outcomes listed than I do negatives as I know if that situation was permanent or had of lasted longer than it did. It would of started to affect me more as a person and may of lead to major unhappiness. Now a massive weight has been lifted, since then I have been extremely happy and many good things have opened up for me. I now look forward to the next people we live with and hope our home will be a much happier, positive environment.
I didn’t know about sharing this although I feel it’s very useful for people wanting to travel or for anyone who is planning on coming out to Australia and aren’t aware of having to house share or what it can be like.
Thanks so much for reading, I hope this may have helped some of you.
Lots of love,