SELF CARE

Hello everyone and welcome back!!

I felt the need to come on and do a short post because I felt real SHIT today and I feel it’s good to express this as mentioned before not everyone is living a perfect life and just because their Instagram or social media portrays they are happy doesn’t mean they genuinely are.

Today I had a strange day with weird emotions (weird is good right). I felt exhausted and just like I haven’t had a break lately to myself. Since January from I have arrived back to Sydney I have been super hectic with getting back into work, settling in my apartment, getting new house mates, getting back into normality and just finding that balance of life again.

I have struggled with stress overload more so lately from what I have dealt with but I see these situations as learning curves and it’s good to change scenery, change routine, change hobbies, change friends. This will bring out the best in you and once you change small things bigger things will come.

Past couple of weeks I have been rushed off my feet planning for a lot of stuff coming up over the next couple of months and I honestly didn’t plan most of it so it’s kind of just hit me in the face unexpectedly but I feel like that’s how good things always plan to happen lol. I’m honestly grateful that these opportunities have reached my direction and I’m more so happy within myself that I have accepted them, even though they have all kind of timed to happen at once haha.

If you don’t take up on these opportunities you may never get a chance for them again.

Also at the beginning of this week it kick started with me hitting 2K followers on my Instagram!!! Woohooo I’m bloody so hyper that this small but big achievement has happened in such small amount of time as although my blog started a year ago when I began my travels, it hasn’t really kicked off until January after farm work until I had more time to put 100% effort in.

Since then I have been putting in a lot of my time as I can see the potential I have to help & inspire people. Recently I received a lot of messages about how I have inspired people to take risks and live their dreams because my blog explains I have done this. This makes my heart so happy, knowing little old me has helped people and then can only get better, right?!

I want to thank everyone of you who has supported me whether it be the last year or recently because you have helped me become more confident and have helped me find passion in writing and sharing my experiences.

To thank you all, I’m sharing a free give away/ competition with lots of amazing goodies next Friday 24th May. Make sure to enter and good luck in advance!! 🎁

Anyway let’s get to the point. I tried all afternoon to speak on my story on insta and I just wasn’t in the right mind set so I was like okay it is important to say how I feel so instead I will do a blog post.

So today I realised and thought to myself…When was the last time I took time off and chilled?! I actually couldn’t remember. After farm work I had no break I was straight into temp jobs & ever since I have been crazy busy. Weekends are my only time off work but I never sit down, most of my friends always say I like to get every hour in out of the day?! Haha

Something just hit me today where I was like gosh I need some self time, took the night off the gym and came home to new PJs, fluffy socks & dressing gown. Sat down with a cup of tea and reflected on how important it is to have these important moments.

We all live super busy lifestyles and don’t get me wrong I love being busy and keeping my mind productive but you need to have self care time where you stop, take a break and relax. If you don’t remind yourself to do this, is anyone else going to pat you on the shoulder and remind you???

My skin has broke out lately and I spent the evening pampering myself and now I feel so refreshed. Please take a day or week every so often if you don’t already to just rest and look after your own mind. You need to escape your busy bubble and do this or it could really start to affect your mood & you may become sad or get anxiety.

I attended a workshop last night in North Sydney held through One Eighty. Check out their page for anyone interested in future events!

The workshop was focused on 14-24 year olds and it was based on Healthy Mind/ Healthy Body. I travelled 2 hours from work to attend this event by myself but I was super excited!! The ladies who ran the event were bloody amazing and covered everything I wanted to hear.

They discussed how certain foods can affect your skin, gut & mood. Also they discussed mental health on how you need to have boundaries for people who aren’t doing you any favours, so if your in someone’s company who you feel isn’t impacting you in a positive way that you want them too. Then cut them, you don’t need them and we need to learn to say no. If we don’t we go around on this cycle and are just constantly going to be dealing with the same situation or person.

We were made to write down 5 things that we as individuals think we are and the person next to us as had to write down 5 things they also thought you were. You then had to compare what you thought you were and what your friend thought you were and see if there was a difference. As I was alone I began writing a few words nervously because we never really stop and think what we think we are to others. A girl behind me pay me on my arm and said “I think you are independent”, I literally just became a ball of emotions and was like wow this is so kind and really meant so much to me.

Although I have been in a relationship for almost 7 years I still love my alone time to meet new people and have the independency to attend events without that fear of being alone. If you don’t and your constantly in your partners company it isn’t good for your mind, you need to stay open to others and be free to have fun. When you do you will attract good energy, in which I did I met 2 beautiful girls who started chatting to me, give me a lift to the bus stop and showed they cared. Little things like this make me so happy!!

Another thing I learnt was that one of the ladies explained how through her teenage years she listened to her parents and other family members around her tell her “she should” be doing this or “she should” being doing a certain course to get a certain job. At the time and because she was so young she listened but she took action and then after many years realised she done something because others influenced her to go down this path when she didn’t particularly want to.

She has since left this career and is living a completely different lifestyle which she thought she should be living and not want others dictated that she should be living. I think this is very important that only you, yourself can make these big decisions and don’t let someone tell you what you should be doing and expect that to be what will make you truely happy because it won’t.

I hope this blog post has helped a little and will give you a reminder for self care and to check in on yourself every once in awhile. Chill, relax then continue doing your thing!! πŸ’₯

Thank you for reading lovelies, remember my competition is being announced on my Instagram next Friday.

Lots of love,

EmmaInWanderLand 😘

DARKNESS INTO LIGHT 2019

Hi everyone and welcome back to my blog!!

I thought I would do a short blog post about Darkness into Light as it is coming up next week and I’m taking part in order to raise funds to help prevent suicide and self harm.

Some of you may not know what this is or have ever heard of Darkness into Light before so I will start by giving you a short intro.

What is Darkness into Light???

On May 11th hundreds and thousands of people around the world in over 16 countries participate and come together to walk from the darkness of the night into the light of the morning to help the global fight against suicide and self harm.

The 5km walk represents the therapeutic counselling journey. This shows the importance of mental health and well being in all our lives as individuals.

All entry fees raised from around the world go towards Pieta House and international charity partners such as PIPS Charity based on Antrim Road, Belfast.

Local Charities…

PIPS provide support to locals who are considering or may have at some point considered ending their own life. They also provide support to local families & friends who may have been touched by suicide.

What is Pieta House???

Pieta House provides one to one counselling to people suffering from suicide ideation and engaging in self game or those who bereaved by suicide.

Last year in 2018, Pieta House helped almost 7,500 people.

I feel extremely excited to participate in the walk which I will doing next Saturday from Bondi Beach at 5am, hopefully I see some familiar faces!

Ormeau Park Belfast is the venue for Belfast so if you are interested in participating please do so by registering via Darkness into Light’s website: https://www.darknessintolight.ie/our-charity-partners#Lump11561

Participating in the walk and knowing I am making a real and measurable difference especially for my own country whilst doing this event on the other side of the world, is actually quite emotional as the suicide figures back home are so high. It was frightening how often there was a suicide announced on social media back home so just imagine the ones that also happen but don’t get shared on social media.

Every 40 seconds a person dies by suicide

Suicide is a major health issue which devastates families and communicates. Thoughts of suicide or suicidal behaviour can be triggered by a single event or a series of events over time.

Suicide and self harm can be linked to many life problems which leads to feelings of hopelessness & despair such as:

  • Trauma of abuse
  • Poverty
  • Money / debt problems
  • Unemployment
  • Drug/ alcohol misuse
  • Social isolation
  • Pool social conditions/ homelessness
  • Violence
  • Family/ relationship problems
  • Previous suicide attempt
  • Family/ friend history of suicide
  • Imprisonment

I read online, people within Northern Ireland experience 20- 25% higher levels of mental health illness when compared to the rest of the UK.

There are significantly a lot higher levels of depression, antidepressant prescription rates and higher incidences of self harm within Northern Ireland.

Northern Ireland also has the highest rate of suicide within the whole of the UK.

Figures have proven that women are more likely to self harm & attempt suicide, whilst men are three times more likely to die by suicide.

I hope everyone reading this can kindly help out by registering to do the walk in an area close to you as this will go along way in helping out your local community.

Also for anyone who would like to show their support towards me participating you can make a donation through my PayPal link which will be sent to Pieta House Ireland and this will allow them to continue to deliver their vital services. Β£2, or even 50p can go an awful long way so please help out as much as you possibly can.

My fundraising link is below:

https://paypal.me/emmainwanderland?locale.x=en_GB

If you follow me on my Instagram emmajanecraig_x , check out for updates where I will show you all photos of the walk and the journey.

Thanks so much for reading and thanks in advance for anyone who helps out by either participating around the world in the walk or helps me fundraise.

Lots of love,

EmmaInWanderLand πŸ’›

BULLYING & SOCIAL MEDIA

Hi guys,

This blog is an important one. It is about bullies and the dangers of social media which most people will probably relate too.

I got inspired to write this blog from listening to Podcasts & Instagram stories of people’s past experiences of dealing with online trolls and it honestly touched me so much on how they dealt with it and also how strong people are to overcome situations like this.

I’m not too sure about you but this affects me as a person because I can’t get my head around the fact why its such a common thing in society to happen on a daily basis.

“Wouldn’t it be amazing to live in a bully free world?”

I believe everyone should be free and be who you want to be if someone doesn’t like you for who you are. Don’t change, let them walk on as that is there problem and you continue shining.πŸ’«

Social Media πŸ‘₯

I think bullies or online trolls use social media as a platform to bully others not only mentally but also physically. This has impacted some people so much to the point of suicide. I find it terrifying…where does it stop?!

Bullies often bully due to jealousy. If someone is pretty, doing well for themselves, working hard, buying nice things to treat themselves and living life to the fullest why should you give them hatred because your jealous? (Baffles me).

These bullies should be inspired & want to push themselves that little bit harder to do just the same instead of being jealous and giving the person hatred. Why not share kindness and love? πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

There is so many online fake accounts (Catfish) and trolls hiding behind a computer screen. How do these people find it appropriate to sit infront of a keyboard and just physically and mentally destroy people?

Social media is growing everyday and the amount you can do on an app or social media account is expanding and updating so often.

For example I heard on a podcast that a relationship actually broke down because of this. What was happening?

Well, on Snapchat and also Find my IPhone app I found out recently you can check your linked partner on these apps to see their current location.

So imagine your partner tells you they are off to a certain place and you check these apps to find out they are actually somewhere different and they’ve lied to you? Hmm, it’s SO DANGEROUS.

I totally disagree with this, as you are invading your partner’s personal space but also this will tear you apart inside and it will eventually destroy your trust with this person.

However on the other hand. I heard a brilliant way to use the find my iPhone app. If your friend or family member goes on say for an example a date you can track them to ensure they are in a safe place. This idea is amazing for security and safety reasons.

How can we prevent online trolls/bullying?

  • Honestly I think as difficult as it may be and appreciating the fact everyone deals with situations differently. We need to always rely on friends or close family to talk about any difficulty you are having as it’s not easy to overcome and handle the situation alone! (We’re not all superheroes).
  • Be aware that not everyone behind an online account may be who they say they are. There are so many dangerous people out there catfishing and hiding behind fake accounts.
  • In this instance I advise you to have your social media page private and a good tip is to also set your Instagram messages to private. Therefore, only your followers can send you direct messages.
  • We should think twice before we actually say something as no matter what you say its revealed online, so you have to be super careful before you click to post your comment online just remember that it could offend anyone.

My Personal Experience…

Growing up I got bullied more than once. Through school I found it very difficult to deal with people and how they spoke about me.

It started in first year when I wore glasses and had braces I got bullied simply just because i had glasses and braces. How ridiculous does this sound? It may seem silly but seriously people don’t understand how their actions or words can affect somebody.

In a new school, with people sniggering and giggling at your looks. Its not easy to just let it slide no matter how small it may be. As you then compare yourself to other girls who are obviously prettier than you who don’t have glasses and braces and think where did it all go wrong?

It then kicked off again in 3rd year when I was roughly 14/15 years old. At this age you obviously want to try things like clip in hair extensions, make up and fake tan.

Well I did anyway. I was intrigued to know what it was all about, wasn’t every girl at this age?!Remembering how around this time we thought we were amazing at applying foundation without a beauty blender omg stop how did we cope? 🀣

Well I remember in my school all the girls were infront of the mirrors in the bathroom spending there entire lunch break topping up on there makeup.

A few times the girls in a couple years above me laughed amongst themselves in the bathrooms and even went online and made jokes about my makeup and tan. Again how ridiculous to be little and laugh at someone a few years younger than you.

Then majority of the time throughout 4th/5th year in school, I got laughed at for my personal appearance which was my nose. I got questioned like “How many times I broke it?” Which infact was none.

I didn’t have many friends in school but even my own so called best friends made up names and would of found this funny to laugh it. It was horrible as it happened almost every school day.

This lead to me being self conscious about the way I looked. I used to come home after my school day and be upset about how people found the way my nose is shaped funny.

I often did consider a nose job (how crazy). The older I get and also when I met Nathan too I gained a lot more self confidence. Now im like why would I let my appearance affect others to the point they force me to change the way I look? I learnt different ways to not care about how I looked to other people. Why should it matter?

I always felt alone and I used to be a person who would of said nothing and just came home and cried alone in my bedroom. I didn’t find myself surrounded by a great group of friends growing up and found many people in my area growing up, judgemental and jealous which led to hatred towards me.

This was one of the main reasons for my move to Australia. I didn’t even give it a second thought as hard as it was at the same time to leave.

I wanted a fresh slate with new people around me and I’ve gained so many amazing friends in such a short space of time already! πŸ‘­

Everyone has Haters ❌

I don’t think it’s fair that no matter what we do as humans we get judged for it. May it be for the way you look, the way you dress, your personality or what your going through. Someone will always judge.

Even celebrities get slated and judged but that’s what makes them successful as they strive from it and turn it into motivation to better themselves and anyways they know only a small % of the comments are haters and the rest are fans who genuinely like them for who they are.

Supportive Links πŸ“ž

https://au.reachout.com/everyday-issues/bullying

Reachout.com is for Australians and provides information to help any young person with guided tools designed for their needs.

1 in 4 young Australians are experiencing a mental health difficulty.

https://www.bullying.co.uk

Bullying.co.uk is for anyone throughout the whole of the UK. They provide a confidential helpline service for anyone dealing with bullying online or physically.

https://suicideawareness.co.uk

https://www.lifeline.org.au

Above are 2 links that are really useful for crisis support and suicide prevention. One for anyone in the UK and the other is for Australians. Anyone dealing with a difficult crisis or knows anyone who is please advise to reach out to these support groups for the best help and guidance!

This comes to the end of my blog. I hope you enjoyed reading and also took some tips on board too. This was something I felt I needed to point across as it’s such a common thing in daily day to day life.

Please share all your experiences relating to bullying or online trolls with me by doing so in the box below. β˜ΊπŸ’•

Lots of love

Em.